Category Archives: healing

I am a Whole, multi-faceted Being

Don’t try to shrink me.

Don’t try to get me to play small.

Don’t back me into a corner.

Don’t try to get me to stifle down or suppress any part of myself.

Unless, of course, you desire to be disappointed… 🌀

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Some Ideas About Healing

This is from Robin Rose Bennett’s ‘The Gift of Healing Herbs: Plant Medicines and Home Remedies for a Vibrantly Healthy Life’ đź’š

  • Every cell in your body is conscious
  • Bodies are innocent, and believe everything you tell them if you believe what you are saying/thinking
  • You can’t lie to your body
  • Bodies are wise, and they always tell the truth, often inconveniently, uncomfortably, even painfully
  • Look for the truth & wisdom in what goes “wrong” in the body. It speaks truths for us that we may be unaware of, or simply uncomfortable, unwilling, or unable to express
  • Your body loves you so much that it is willing to get hurt or sick in order to help you grow & become fully alive
  • It is impossible to separate body from soul while you are living
  • Healing wounds, as well as ancestral wounds & traumas, brings healing to you, your ancestors, and future generations. There is not really such a thing as past, present, and future. There is only now
  • Any true kindness you extend toward yourself brings more kindness into the world. That kindness extends out into the environment at a creative level, and helps compassion & thoughtfulness to grow in people
  • Compassion is more helpful than judgement in helping you to adopt new practices or release harmful habits. Whenever you can bring friendliness rather than forcefulness into your approach to healing yourself, it will help you more
  • Illness and “accidents” happen for you rather than to you. And anything that happens for you also happens for the larger world around you
  • If you look for the love letter in everything that happens, you will stand a better chance of seeing the love that is everywhere
  • Nothing is a distraction from your life, or keeping you from your life. It is all your life, moment-to-moment
  • Bodies are innately designed & oriented to heal themselves
  • Healing is as natural as breathing
  • Healing is a spiraling process, not a linear event
  • Healing sometimes means to heal into death
  • Herbs are healers. They know who they are, and what their purpose is. When you take plants into yourself as food or medicine, they help you to become who you came here to be, and to live your purpose
  • Herbs work really well. You do have to actually take them, however
  • When you look into the meaning of healing — tending to spiritual healing as well as physical — the healing goes deeper. You not only heal your body, you heal your life. When the illness alone is taken care of, the body often has to find another way to get your attention
  • Bodies are real, and they are ultimately symbolic of everything that is happening within your psyche & how you experience your relationship to the world around you
  • Without a connection to Nature, including your own wild nature, a certain sense of loneliness, alienation and isolation is inevitable. This disconnection leads to the creation of our worst health problems, personally & socially. Yet what can feel so deep and irreparable is oddly simple to fix; regular walks in the woods or in a city park are a good start. Get your feet on the Earth. Move your body. Plant a garden. Drink herb teas. Grow & gather your own herbal medicine. These and other simple practices will lead you home. Remember, whatever you are seeking is also seeking you. As we the people come home to ourselves, together we can & will create a healthy world
  • Remember to try the simple things, for they often work well
  • Herbs often work surprisingly quickly
  • When the basic physical makeup of a plant has been chemically altered, it is not quite an herb anymore. Now it’s an herbal product, and more prone to cause unexpected side effects
  • Self-care is not self-absorption. It is about looking out for yourself as you would for any beloved. Self-love is the greatest healing force there is
  • Condemnation & judgement are long hard roads, which will eventually lead you to acceptance; so why not choose the kinder road sooner — or even right away? No matter how long you’ve lived in self-judgement, the opportunity to choose self-acceptance comes around again, every instant. It is never too late to Love
  • Bodies always speak to us in the language of Love

Abundant Green Blessings to you!

Unconditional Love, with a big fat “NO” on top

“Being present and ‘accepting’ is NOT the same as tolerating or condoning unkind, disrespectful, violent or shaming behaviour.

I speak from experience, as a mostly-recovered ‘Mr Nice Guy’! I think back to the utter emotional violence I witnessed in my family as a child, and how I was always tolerating, tolerating, tolerating… stuffing down my sorrow and anger, trying to make everyone feel better, making excuses for their unkindness, swallowing my words, never feeling I had the right to say ‘no’…

Until one day I realised:

I HAVE A VOICE. I MATTER TOO.

From a loving place, our hearts fully open to the Mystery, grounded in a deep YES to all of life, deeply rooted in the clarity of non-dual understanding (we are ALL the same Consciousness), we can STILL give a clear ‘no’ to situations, behaviours, policies, people. We can let go of hatred yet maintain a fierce discernment. We can love deeply, and still say ‘no’. And have the courage and willingness to face the consequences.

You may feel a deep compassion and tenderness towards a person yet still say ‘no’ to their requests, their statements, their behaviours, their acting-out. Your ‘no’ emerges from a deeper YES to life, truth, authenticity. Seen in this way, the ‘no’ and the ‘yes’ are not opposites, as the Moon is not the opposite of the Sun but equally welcome in the unconditional vastness of sky, in the giant YES of Presence itself.

The ‘no’ is not necessarily resistance, or ego, or an expression of fear, or ‘running away’. The ‘no’ can be fierce love, too. The ‘no’ can be an expression of great courage.

Friends, unconditional love does not require us to become doormats, or tolerate violence, or squash our precious feelings and hide our ‘no’ in order to appear to be more spiritual or compassionate or nice or kind or ego-free or enlightened, beyond human feeling. Fuck that image. It is false. A mask that will suffocate you in the end.

A true boundary, a loving ‘no’, does not separate us, it protects us. It allows us to keep our hearts open to each other, relate honestly, yet know exactly where we stand.

Others may not like or agree with our ‘no’. They may judge us for it. Call us names. But we were never here to protect others from pain. We were always here to speak our truth, with fierce compassion.

And so we can say, without contradiction:

I LOVE YOU. AND I WILL NO LONGER TOLERATE YOUR BEHAVIOUR.

And stand there, free, in our awesome power.”

~ Jeff Foster

Starve a Vampire: Learn to Hold Safe Space

Yes. HEAL. Love is the antidote.

“The phrase “holding space” is nearly ubiquitous. And yet truly safe spaces in which we can be seen and held in our vulnerability are still exceedingly rare. So let’s to take a moment to question: What exactly is a safe space, and how do we go about holding that for each other?

A safe space is one in which we are received fully, in totality, as ourselves. There is no lecturing or instruction in a safe space. There is no saving or even “helping.” There is no shaming or projection or demanding someone else to be more like us or do it “our way.” If we want to be a safe space for someone, we do not tell them not to be angry. We do not react fearfully to their sadness or pain, or freak out when they show their shadow. Neither do we allow them to place blame on us, harm us, or lash out in a way that serves no one. Holding a safe space, then, requires extremely strong and well-established boundaries.

In order to hold space, we simply witness the other with love, as though our consciousness itself is a set of warm and expansive arms gently holding and supporting—but never grasping. Like a butterfly has landed gently in our open hand, or like one holds a newborn baby, particularly one that is upset.

Being this for another is the most sacred act, the greatest honor, we can possibly undertake; it is the holy work. This simple state of being holds magical transformative powers, as the deepest and darkest of wounds can finally be witnessed in loving presence and so often transmuted and released just because they are finally met and witnessed. And of course, we can only be this for another as deeply as we have already chosen to heal and integrate our own selves…which for me is a tremendous motivation to do the work, and do the work some more.

But what happens when someone opens the special Pandora’s box of their own darkness to us, in confidence and in need, and we don’t meet them there but rather squelch and shame their expression? I am not quite sure our society as a whole yet understands just how toxic and deleterious this scenario can be; it can create divisions and wounds in the psyche that can last a lifetime.

For example, when a woman shames another woman, for being too much, too “negative,” and too herself —whether it be a daughter, a sister, a friend—she then creates in that girl that very vulnerability that puts them at risk of falling into the hands of the nearest hungry energy vampire/abuser/predator. The lack of safe space and even the subtlest of shaming, actually primes her to be abused by shunning and relegating a piece of her soul to the shadowlands, where only the vampires dwell.

I know from personal experience that those very predators—who are paying attention, and looking for weak spots, and hoping to feed on her soul—will be willing, in fact all too happy and excited, to “see” those parts of her that have been forced into shadow and shame by others. They will provide a reflection of that part of her where others have failed to do so—and by being the only one willing to hold her in her darkness, they will gain a very unholy control over her.

In particular, the absence of truly safe space for empowered feminine sexuality has made our daughters vulnerable to the worst sort of predation. Further, the destabilizing and and shaming of the feminine actually threatens to destroy our entire world by creating a massive imbalance that only love can heal.

The minute we force another woman into a box, and accept her only conditionally according to her ability to satisfy our requirements of “good” and “appropriate” behavior, and have her modulate and curate herself to our liking (or more accurately, so as not to trigger our own shame and wounding), the minute we force her to change in order to receive our approval, we are being a puppet of the age-old agenda to syphon and steal power, and we reiterate the cosmic wound. We are part of the problem. Period.

As noted, when a someone shames someone else simply for being, it is really her own judgment and rejection of herself, which she is imposing upon another. If we can catch that and heal that in ourselves before inflicting it on another, we may quite literally be changing the course or even saving someone’s life. If we do the work within ourselves and really have a good hard (loving) look at our own shadows, we suddenly find ourselves able to hold space for another in a way we had no idea we could.

I would say it’s a big deal, a huge responsibility, and high time to rise to it. The energies that are resurfacing right now— in us—are so raw and delicate that they depend on us remembering how to enact this on Earth once more. And if we should fail, the fate of the Earth is also at stake.

With the shadow that’s looming over the entire Earth right now, a veritable sea of unprocessed darkness, it is so essential that we all make the commitment to healing our own.

So do a good deed, and starve a vampire. Commit to holding truly safe space, for yourself, for those you love, and for the Earth that we call home.”

~ Sara Sophia Eisenman

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2016/02/starve-a-vampire-learn-to-hold-safe-space/